Okay, the reason for the title of this post is because, I haven't been on this thing in FOREVER. I actually, didn't expect to be able to log back in. However, I clicked the sign in button and here I am! Anyways, I was reading over some of my old posts and I came across the one about love...
Wow.
Needless to say, I should probably explain how I now view love.
Since I hit that wonderful age (13), I've been fascinated by the word "love." And I suppose, that our view of this word changes over time. Mine has changed over the last year or so..
I am sure the reason for this change is one of two things,
1) God
2) Life Changing Events
Or, maybe both..
My best friend recently married about a month ago. When you view your best friend or yourself getting marrried, you seem to picture it being so far away. Honestly, I was suprised it happened so fast. Yet, it happened.
I remember the morning of her wedding, pretty clearly.. I wasn't awake, one of my favorite people were getting married, and I didn't want to be there. Sounds awful, doesn't it? I was curled up in a blanket on a couch. I was texting a friend who was trying to comfort me and who had a similar situation. Don't get me wrong.. I approved of the guy she was marrying and was extremely happy for her but.. mentally, it was hard to accept. It all seemed to be happening to fast and I'm greatful for that one friend who could relate.
Anyways, we all stayed the night at her fiance's house. Things were busy that morning and I knew I needed to share something with my best friend. I finally (while putting make-up on), got her into the bathroom to talk. I told her how you have to "will to love someone" that, it wasn't always going to be easy. That most of all, put God first.
See, here is the problem with most people..
1) They base everything around feelings. (I'm also guilty of doing this)
2) They base love upon looks.
3) They think everything has to be romantic 24/7. (Wouldn't we all)
This, however, is a very messed up and DANGEROUS view of "love." Don't get me wrong, love does include things like feelings, romance, and looks.. just not all the time and in diffrent ways.
Most of the time, it's plain ole' hard work. You have to "will to love." What does that mean? I had no idea before this wedding. My mother had been trying to share this truth with me for months but, I'm one of those stubborn people who learn by experience. I hosted my best friend's bridal shower and that day, the phrase "will to love" started to become clear in my mind..
You can't expect a person to fulfill you, only God can do that. Which, also means it isn't always going to be easy. That, is where "will to love" comes in.
Let's take number 1,
1)The, "They base everything around feelings."
Looking back, I wish I did this a lot less but of course... I wasn't looking to God as my true fulfillment. People (girls ecspecailly) think that their guy has to be the center of their world. Ladies, God should be that center. I read a quote once that stated, "A girl should be so lost in Christ that a man has to search for Him to find her." If you center things around his feeling for you.. or your feelings for him... you are going to be one disappointed individual.
2) "They base love upon looks."
"He is so handsome!" They're is nothing wrong with wanting a good looking guy.. just don't base everything around that notion. Look at his heart.. after all, his looks may fade. That means you are left with his heart.
3) "They think everthing has to be romantic 24/7."
I blame hollywood for a lot of the so called "romance," that people think they are going to get. My view on this for awhile was very messed up. When it comes down to it.. you might just be sitting on the couch, him reading a book and you watching "Titanic" by yourself. There is nothing wrong with that. It isn't always going to be romantic.. will to love.
I guess the point to this whole thing is "willing to love" is loving someone no matter what (I'm talking about after you're married. You best be extremely careful before hand.) You have to love them even when they get on your nerves. I'm not a married person but, I hope to put God first and "will to love." And advice to single ladies (like myself), don't wait around. Be so in love with Christ that if he does bring a man your way, you'll know.
Love,
Amber M. Marshall
Stop waiting! http://gracefortheroad.com/2012/02/03/idontwait/\
"As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love. If you keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love." -John 15:9,10
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